I do want to stop at least once a month and post about LIFE. About Marriage and relationships so we can all stop and reevaluate ourselves. This first post on the topic will have no real topic! Huh? I mean, I will just list my own Marriage thoughts. How I feel about being a Wife and Mom! They are not meant for arguments, but just my own view and hopefully you get lost in a moment of what Marriage and relationships mean or have meant for you!
- Remember your Vows: You Married to become One person. I do not separate myself from my husband in any way..not in money, conversation or parenting!
- Respect is the Marriage Golden Rule to me. We are not arguers, but there are those times I am so frustrated with him. No matter what-he is my husband and I would never do him wrong or disrespect him for any reason! If I were to ever speak negative of my husband to anyone else, I may as well hang our marriage on a punching bag and throw my fist into it every time. One day it will finally shatter! Words hurt more than anything and that is as true as those elementary playground rules we were taught as kids!
- Marriage first, then a parent! My husband is first. After all, we are One person! He is my best friend and never will anyone else hold a higher spot in my life!
- Communication! Communication! Communication! This is a hard one for me as I am a reserved person and tend to hold my feelings in. In that, we have endured some stress in our marriage with my turning inward and leaving my husband to assume and come to his own conclusions as to why I may be so withdrawn. I am always working hard at this in my marriage!
- Finance! To hide money, to overspend and to not budget will add unnecessary stress to any relationship! Money is not what makes us happy, but let's face it- With no money...things are sometimes just impossible and you are limited! Who wants to feel trapped and limited. One of the sure ways my husband and I come together is when we talk about our finances. We do it often and it keeps us close.
- He is Dad & I am Mom! I keep well aware my role and his. I always back him up as he does for me! It is a bit unspoken, but in general. I keep my eyes open as Mom...both sets of eyes (you know what I mean-the set in front AND the set in the back of my head)! I email teachers, keep schedules, notice the broken shoes, hair cuts needed, Dr appointments due and grades they are achieving. That is all me, my husband does not do that and frankly I wouldn't want to relinquish that. His role-back me up! That is the most important role and he does it well! Mom's are the eyes, Dad is the force!
So...there is Me as a wife! How do you feel about these topics? If anything, have a discussion with your spouse or partner tonight! When the kids are in bed or in a quiet moment, pick a topic and have a discussion! Discussions are all it takes to feel close and stay connected!
Oh and just for some credit where credit is due: here is the post I read that inspired me to stop and have this discussion http://howigotmygrooveback.com/transparency-in-relationships-how-far-should-it-go/